Sacred Space~ with special guest Ashley

Recently I was having a wonderful conversation with another Intuitive Mother and the topic of “Spirituality” came up. We had noticed so many fearing or having discomfort from using this word “Spirituality” especially for those who belong within a church or certain religion. When so many are having their Spiritual Awakenings we often find it difficult to fit in within a church like setting while many just leave them all together. There is know right or wrong way it is how you are best guided. There are some incredibly giving, kind church communities that just blow me away while others I just cringe and want to run, it is a feeling and some are transforming before our eyes. Having said that when we discover and connect to our gifts of being a healer, visionary, empath, etc. we find ourselves being somewhat afraid to share or discuss these within our community. It isn’t always easy but I do feel many people are ready for it and need to hear this topic in order for their Spiritual Awakening to occur. Some will absolutely resist and feel that it is against what they have been taught thru their religion, and that is ok as we recognize this as fear or simply not fully understanding what “Spirituality” truly means and feels. For me personally I have noticed some within the comments I receive from my blog while my friend experiences it first hand within a church. I felt it best to have her write this next post since the way she dealt with her experience was so beautiful and supported. Ashley is an incredibly gifted Energy Medicine Practitioner and whenever something comes up physically or spiritually for myself or my family she is the first person I go to seek guidance because she is that awesome! I hope you enjoy her words of wisdom and I thank you Ashley for sharing your experience for us so that new understanding can unfold. Love Always…Tamara
If you would like to connect with Ashley her information will be at the end of this post, thank you!

Sacred Space

What is a sacred space? For me, it is a place where I can explore my higher self, connect with support

that is seen and unseen, and nurture my soul. The bible says “The church is a sacred space for God by

the Spirit” (Ephesians 2:22) It is of profound interest to me how challenging it is to find a sacred space

outside of isolation on my own journey. I am not even sure what secular vs non-secular means anymore.

It seems more fitting to add a third category: non-secular, religious, and spiritual. I wonder if you are

experiencing this too.

I had a very interesting conversation at my Episcopal church recently. To give you a brief background,

our head priest just retired and was replaced by an interim priest who is doing a wonderful job

facilitating working sessions that are designed to help our members discover what exactly it is we

want from our church so we may find a new priest with similar goals. Throughout the process, we have

spent many hours trying to rewrite our vision statement, mission statement, and values. Everyone

has spoken of their desire to be an open community with an emphasis on EVERYONE being welcome.

They have spoken about worship, education, fellowship and service. I certainly cannot argue that all of

these are amiable and a part of what a church should be. I then asked, “Why isn’t anyone talking about

how we can elevate our spirituality?” This seemed like a perfectly acceptable question to me, but I was

rebutted with a very surprising response, “SPIRITUALITY? There is no place for that word in church!”!!!

After I picked my jaw up off the floor, I asked the woman what it was about the word she found

offensive. Her reply was, “I have friends who consider themselves ‘spiritual’ and they do not share the

same faith as me. I guess I should ask what that word means to you.” I replied, “To me, it means to take

what we have learned here and be thoughtful of how it applies to us on a soul level. “ As she rolled her

eyes at me, we were interrupted to focus our attention to the front of the room while each small group

presented their discussions.

So I sat there and listened to everyone’s amiable thoughts until I finally heard something spiritual. The

priest said, “I want all of you to reread these and listen to the stirrings of your soul so we can pick up

this discussion next week.” I was excited to have this wording from our priest! I wrote it down and gave

it to the woman who had rebutted me and said, “I think my choice of words made you uncomfortable.

This is what the priest just said which is a perfect example of being spiritual.” It was delightful to see

her relief. The man with the collar spoke of spirituality so she decided it was worth taking some time for


Why do so many people feel unsafe exploring what their religion is on a soul level? Or if they are

brave enough to explore this, why does it feel so unsafe to speak up about it? To be honest, after that

conversation, I felt more unsafe than ever discussing such things in church. For weeks I did nothing. On

Sundays mornings I wore my pretty little “mask” that I thought everyone wanted to see and pouted.

Yes, I pouted.

Then, one day out of the blue, something amazing happened. I found out a dear friend of mine,

someone like you and me, was asked to lead a small group in deeper discussions on what our church

really wanted. She is not a member of our church and did not know this was where my family attended

church. She is someone who I have spent countless hours with discussing SPIRITUALITY. We spend

our time talking about divine timing, spirit guides, manifestation, honoring your higher self and other

similar topics. She and her teenage daughters have been coming to me for energy healing work for a

few months and she is opening a healing arts center in town. I cannot believe someone from MY church

chose HER to lead our discussions about the direction of the church is heading. Hope prevails! Pouting

ends. I found the courage to feel that if this was the church where my husband and I are going to raise

our children it MUST be made a sacred space!

With the support of my friend leading the discussions, I found my voice. I learned from this small group

that there are other people in my church who feel the same way I feel, and we are all wearing the same

mask. Yet, we are the mustard seeds. As I recounted to the group what I thought was missing from

church and what changes I would like to see implemented, the responses I received were refreshing.

There were dramatic sighs of relief, and a few shouted, “Yes!” and “Finally!” Suddenly we are discussing

how nice it would be to start a meditation group and build a labyrinth!

We are a long way from achieving our hearts’ desires but we are on the journey, finally!

I hope you are all able to find your sacred space, where ever it may be. And while not everyone has

earned the right to hear your story, I hope you find a safe group of friends to nurture your soul, and


Ashley Hardman
Energy Medicine Practitioner
To reach Ashley for healings please email her at

Learning to Ride the Waves of the Full Moon


I have been noticing more and more of my loved ones and I included becoming highly sensitive during the time of the full moons. I didn’t put two and two together until a friend of mine said, “You seem to be always sick around the full moon.” So here I am six months later yet again sick and wondering why. Are you too? Well I was grateful enough to receive some guidance from Doreen Virtue as she explained that our bodies are 80% water so these full moons certainly react with our bodies. She also shared that during these times of when the Full moon rises that we are to release toxic emotions and use this time to heal and balance ourselves. So this means we really need to put forth an extra effort in watching our thought patterns and keeping track of what we are feeding our bodies and of course exercise.

When you take the time to look at all of these three components it does make sense, we are 80% water and what happens to water when it does not move? Right! It becomes stagnant and bacteria begins to form, this goes for our bodies as well if we do not move often our bodies too will become stagnant leaving room for sickness to take over. Think of how most streams and rivers receive their water. From the mountain tops with the freshest and purest water which then travels down along the mountains and into flats lands to nurture the plants and animals that are eagerly waiting to be nourished along the way. Our mouths are these mountain tops so we need to be drinking only the purest water so that as it travels within our bodies it will nourish and purify our organs and everything that is within us. Are you beginning to notice how Mother Nature is providing us with the answer in caring for our bodies? This water also nourishes our food and what grows from our earth so we need to be sure to be eating the best quality of food you can find or better yet that you can personally grow. (As a side note if you place the words LOVE and HEALING on your water and pray this will in fact purify your water you can read more about this through Dr. Emoto books and his water experiments)

As a mother of 4 rapidly growing children this is not an easy feat especially living in a city where the abundance of bad habits are constantly surrounding us. While most of our grocery stores carry local and organic foods and vegetables it is not cheap, but it can be done. I often get the same organic foods over and over and find what I can on sale but it can be done. Personally I have been sick on and off for about six months now wondering “What is wrong with me?” And thanks to a lovely visit to a Naturopath/Reflexologist it has been a lovely combination of hormones due to my pregnancies and never getting back into alignment with my body as well as food and exercise. I must share this has not been an easy adventure but feel I am on the road to figuring out what works best for my body. And I hope by sharing this that you are able to do the same for yourself. As mothers we do our best every day to nurture our children, our significant others all while being bombarded with life and what it has to throw at us. Sometimes I feel like I am on an episode of Wipe Out, smile! But in the end these challenges are forcing us all to face our bad habits and while it is hard these full moons are offering us a gift of change. The Angels wish for all of us to eat healthier, live simpler, and live in happiness with balance. I do everything within my power to be the best example of this balance for my children. If I am sad I show it, if I cry they see my tears as I am showing my children that life is full of emotions and it is how we react to these challenges that will help our children become better able to cope and find an easier loving path as they grow older but most of all provide opportunities for expressing compassion and empathy.

Our thought patterns have been probably the most difficult for many. It is easy to feel down and low when your body isn’t feeling well. Simply know the Angels are with you standing there holding the energy for you to finally see that this is meant as a gift for us all to learn from, it is an adventure and it is up to you on how you are going to take on this adventure. It may not be what you imagined in your head but maybe before your dreams can become your reality you must clear out and face what is stopping you to begin with? Could it be that we are all cleaning house sort of speak internally so that we can make more room for love to grow inside out. After all the angels did share that it is important to get rid of the old and make room for the new. Many have thought this was just their homes and cars but we forget that our bodies need good cleaning up too.

So with that said I hope by sharing this with all of you that you are better able to learn to ride the waves of the Full Moon! Stop resisting and start getting on your surfboard and glide with each and every wave. See yourself with a joyful smile, healthy body and happy spirit. Face your negative thought patterns and release them finally! Face those foods that you have addictions to and say, “No more I love my self too much and I want to feel healthy and have a higher vibration!” And finally go out into nature and exercise, turn those TV’s off and unplug from our technology and take the time to get to know Mother Nature!

Here is a prayer for you from the Angels…
Please God help me to release any toxic emotions that I am holding within my body. I forgive and I am willing to shift into a higher vibration of Love. Help me to heal and balance myself so that I can be present for my family, the children in my life and for those who need guidance and healing. I trust that you will always have my best interest at heart that I am safe and I am guided to what is best for me and my family. Thank you and I AM READY TO RELEASE AND BE HEALED BUT MOST OF ALL TRANSFORMED INTO A HIGHER VIBRATION! Thank you!

With many blessings and love always…Tamara and The Angels